40 Plus: A Mature Women’s Sex Guide

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40 Plus: A Mature Women’s Sex Guide

Life, they say, begins at 40. But it can present some physical changes. Learn more in this mature women's sex guide...

A Mature Women’s Sex Guide

Life, they say, begins at 40, and for women, the 40s are often among the most sexually satisfying times of their lives; as this women’s sex guide will reveal. Sexually, you may be in your prime, but you may also be wondering about what menopause has in store for you. And if you’re one of the many women who end up having a hysterectomy between the ages of 40 and 50, it’s going to speed you on your way towards the “dreaded” menopause.

But how bad is it really? A study with the average participant age of 67 found that women aged 55 to 80 report the greatest degree of satisfaction with their sex lives.

So, you may ask, what about the loss of libido, and the physical issues with sexual function that you’ve probably heard about already? The truth is that these can become real problems for women after menopause, but with a little care an attention, you can overcome them. Here’s the hot news you’ve been hoping for.

40 Plus: A Mature Women's Sex Guide

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Stretch and Lube

Vaginal dryness and the loss of elasticity in vaginal tissues can make sex physically uncomfortable, or even painful, as we age. But that doesn’t mean we have to say goodbye to the enjoyment of intimacy. Lubes are freely available at any pharmacy, and we can restore the elasticity of vaginal tissues with the help of vaginal dilators.

Sounds scary? It isn’t. Here’s how to use a vaginal dilator. It’s safe, simple, and you can set your own pace in the privacy of your home.

Take Your Time

After menopause, it may take you a little longer to be ready for intercourse, but there’s really no hurry. Your partner may need a little more time to get ready for intercourse too – especially if he’s over 50.

He’ll need more fondling and caressing, even when he’s “in the mood” and so will you girls as 40 plus mature women. It’s all-too-common to entertain the belief that reduced intimacy and a greater need for preparation after 50 is “the woman’s fault.” But your partner may well be in a similar position to you in terms of his physical needs. It makes for a perfect match, and many older men and women report that taking things slowly actually adds to their intimacy.

40 Plus: A Mature Women's Sex Guide

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Do It More Often

As most older people know, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.” More frequent sexual activity improves bloodflow to the vaginal tissues and will even boost your natural moisture. And yes, pleasing yourself counts too, so you can still implement this even if you’re between partners. Think of it as an intimate workout that boosts your sexual health because that’s just what it is.

Boost Your Confidence

As gravity takes its toll, a look in the mirror may be all it takes to shatter your confidence. But realistically, ageing is a natural process and accepting it with grace will lead to a healthier and happier sex life. That’s not to say you won’t enjoy a few little boosts. Gear up your skincare routine.

Invest in a wardrobe that makes you look and feel good about yourself. Make healthy exercise part of your daily routine – it also helps with your libido and sexual function.

And take good care of your physical and mental wellness. When you feel good, you look good too. Still having issues with intimacy after this sex guide? There’s more help to be had. Consult your doctor to find out more.